Comments on: A FORGOTTEN DAD http://fatherdad.com/2006/11/a-forgotten-dad/ One good black father among many... Tackling fatherhood and loving (almost) every minute! Tue, 10 Apr 2012 16:03:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: bunny http://fatherdad.com/2006/11/a-forgotten-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-283 bunny Sun, 03 Dec 2006 02:26:45 +0000 http://fatherdad.com/?p=84#comment-283 Been lurking for a minute now and thought I'd comment on a relative subject to me, the dysfunctional family, oh the ties that bind! I have many aha moments here :-} I'm enjoying it fully and I have listened to a couple of your podcasts as well. I'll be back, just like the terminator. Been lurking for a minute now and thought I’d comment on a relative subject to me, the dysfunctional family, oh the ties that bind!

I have many aha moments here :-} I’m enjoying it fully and I have listened to a couple of your podcasts as well.

I’ll be back, just like the terminator.

]]> By: John http://fatherdad.com/2006/11/a-forgotten-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-278 John Fri, 01 Dec 2006 21:14:28 +0000 http://fatherdad.com/?p=84#comment-278 I would tell you not to worry, but NOPE, not gonna do that! If you love your son so much, what makes you think your father don't love you just as much? Remember one thing, Fathers were not allowed to be an emotional, sensitive guy until the late eighties, nineties and presently in the 2000's. Before, he was there for one purpose, to provide for his family while keeping a roof over their heads, food on the table, clothes on your back and a butt-whupping when you stepped out of line. It was done to keep you from going to jail. I think that is ONE of the Black Father's biggest fears, keeping their sons out of jails or the court systems, because they are not kind to Black men. It took years for my father and myself to even tell a joke, and not offend each other, after I became an adult. My friend, it amazes me, that my dad wants to have all these conversations NOW, but not long about we would walk by one another and NOT speak, and didn't seem to give a damn either. Forget that, speak first. Even if he acts funky to you, speak anyway. Also, try to go sit down and have a conversation with him. I didn't it would be easy, but too much pride on both sides, leave very little time to enjoy one another....*Peace* I would tell you not to worry, but NOPE, not gonna do that! If you love your son so much, what makes you think your father don’t love you just as much?

Remember one thing, Fathers were not allowed to be an emotional, sensitive guy until the late eighties, nineties and presently in the 2000′s. Before, he was there for one purpose, to provide for his family while keeping a roof over their heads, food on the table, clothes on your back and a butt-whupping when you stepped out of line. It was done to keep you from going to jail.

I think that is ONE of the Black Father’s biggest fears, keeping their sons out of jails or the court systems, because they are not kind to Black men.

It took years for my father and myself to even tell a joke, and not offend each other, after I became an adult.

My friend, it amazes me, that my dad wants to have all these conversations NOW, but not long about we would walk by one another and NOT speak, and didn’t seem to give a damn either.

Forget that, speak first. Even if he acts funky to you, speak anyway. Also, try to go sit down and have a conversation with him. I didn’t it would be easy, but too much pride on both sides, leave very little time to enjoy one another….*Peace*

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