Comments on: REUNITE THE FAMILY! http://fatherdad.com/2006/11/reunite-the-family/ One good black father among many... Tackling fatherhood and loving (almost) every minute! Fri, 30 Jul 2010 02:21:17 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: John http://fatherdad.com/2006/11/reunite-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-302 John Thu, 07 Dec 2006 23:06:36 +0000 http://fatherdad.com/?p=80#comment-302 I didn't understand the process of Foster Care initially. Admittedly, it was thoughts of what could a person possibly do to lose their child in the first place? I have never had relatives separated from their parents unless it was a divorce, but even then the father had a relationship with the children. So I admit, I thought the parent must have been an A-hole to lose their parental rights. I came to realize regardless of how the separation happened, a parent is entitled to have their child back, especially if the parent has done or pass all the above requirements stated by law to get their child back. Still, I have seen lately, and read where the parent did these things, but some how fell back into old ways which endangered the kid(s). African Amerian Dad, I didn't know Foster Care pay well either. There are some in foster care who give a tenth more for the child than the parent who is having hard times. They are in it for the money, not the LOVE of the child. This is not always truth, but there are many cases where this is happening. An experience I once had: My date and I was out to dinner, and a little boy say about 10 years walk up to the table and asked for the condiments. My date and I was talking and I didn't see or hear him the first time. When I asked what did he say he mumbled the words....*SIGH*....I asked again because I didn't understand him. He was too shy to ask again, but my date heard him. He asked for the ketchup, man. Before I could give it to him, a lady came over and said, "He's ADOPTED, he wants the ketchup!"... Man, you should have seen the look on his little face. I still don't know why the lady felt it was necessary to tell us he was adopted. She didn't say it angrily, but you could see in his face, it was not an idea situation....*sigh*....Little fella, just walk back to the table with his head down. If anyone is using there home for Foster Care, please be aware of the sensitive nature of these young people coming through your home. I know it is not easy to open your home up to strangers, but don't remind them of their plight either. God Bless I didn’t understand the process of Foster Care initially. Admittedly, it was thoughts of what could a person possibly do to lose their child in the first place? I have never had relatives separated from their parents unless it was a divorce, but even then the father had a relationship with the children. So I admit, I thought the parent must have been an A-hole to lose their parental rights.

I came to realize regardless of how the separation happened, a parent is entitled to have their child back, especially if the parent has done or pass all the above requirements stated by law to get their child back. Still, I have seen lately, and read where the parent did these things, but some how fell back into old ways which endangered the kid(s).

African Amerian Dad, I didn’t know Foster Care pay well either. There are some in foster care who give a tenth more for the child than the parent who is having hard times. They are in it for the money, not the LOVE of the child. This is not always truth, but there are many cases where this is happening.

An experience I once had: My date and I was out to dinner, and a little boy say about 10 years walk up to the table and asked for the condiments. My date and I was talking and I didn’t see or hear him the first time. When I asked what did he say he mumbled the words….*SIGH*….I asked again because I didn’t understand him. He was too shy to ask again, but my date heard him. He asked for the ketchup, man. Before I could give it to him, a lady came over and said, “He’s ADOPTED, he wants the ketchup!”… Man, you should have seen the look on his little face.

I still don’t know why the lady felt it was necessary to tell us he was adopted. She didn’t say it angrily, but you could see in his face, it was not an idea situation….*sigh*….Little fella, just walk back to the table with his head down.

If anyone is using there home for Foster Care, please be aware of the sensitive nature of these young people coming through your home. I know it is not easy to open your home up to strangers, but don’t remind them of their plight either.

God Bless

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